I have been asking myself a particular question more often than I realized; that question was “what would the world be if we were to really do unto others as they’ve done us.” I remember tweeting that question and some of the responses I got were “we’d be blind”, “the world would be in chaos” and some wondered the same thing. I remember when I was growing up and my cousins and I would fight for the simplest things my grandmother would always tell us ” Do unto others as you would have them do to you” as a little girl, you hear these things but they go in one ear and goes through the other. I’ve always prided myself on not treating people ill, or I’ve tried to be mindful not to mistreat anyone, of course I’m not perfect and I have had my fair share of mishaps. It is amazing the things that stick with us in our adult life. I made a confession in my 28 & Winging It that I am a very nice and giving person which is a good thing but 80% of the time my niceness gets me in trouble. Not in trouble in a bad way, well that depends on what your definition of bad is. For years I’ve had the people closest to me tell me about my savior complex and that I need to stop jumping to everyone’s rescue. If I am honest, it seems that I always learn the hard way, I have to wait until I’m on fire before learning ( working on this). Another thing I took with me in my adult life is that it’s better to give than to receive, sadly I take that way too literal. I’ve always been a giver. However, I have found myself on some occasion feeling guilty whenever I’m unable to meet someone’s need in the time they want. The more I was giving, it was becoming a strain for me and not because I had a hard time giving but simply because I could tell that some of these individuals did not genuinely care about me, it was all about them and what they could get.
