These days I’ve been focused on all things wellness, self-love, and personal development. This is the season of my life that I’m currently in. Part of doing all of this is showing up for myself. I’ll be honest I’m not always consistent when it comes to showing up for myself. I’m all about being intentional with my life, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-care but to be honest, I’ve poured from an empty cup far too many times that I’d like to admit. However, I will say that I am learning the importance of showing up for myself and the different ways it can be done.
So if you’re one of those people who’ve been trying to put yourself first more and to show up for yourself, this blog post is for you. I’ve been trying different ways in which I can show up for myself because chileee I needed to cause your girl been out here pouring from the driest of cups ok! When we show up for ourselves it helps to boost our self-esteem and confidence. Here are 8 ways you can show up for yourself.
ACKNOWLEDGE WHERE YOU ARE
One of the first things you should do when wanting to show up for yourself more is to acknowledge where you are in your life. I’ll be honest, I’ve lived in denial. I knew good and well that I was living a lie when it came to certain things. So it is important to accept where you are and your surroundings so you can know what you need to change. This is vital if you want to start showing up for yourself.
NOTICE HOW YOU TALK TO YOURSELF
Be mindful of how you speak to or about yourself. When you realize or start to notice that you’re talking negatively about yourself and you start judging yourself, try to make it more constructive. Try to combat your inner critic that is trying to attack your self-worth. You know the type of negative self-talk I’m talking about. Change the direction of your inner monologue with daily affirmations.
FIND YOURSELF IN AFFIRMING AND VALIDATION CIRCLES
It is imperative that the people you spend time with are validating and affirming you. You can do this by creating daily affirmations and personal mantras. These are good to recite and it helps to give a mental and emotional boost. This also helps to replace negative thoughts with uplifting and positive thoughts. Sometimes in life, we need validation from those closest to us. There’s no better feeling than knowing you have a strong support system.
JOURNAL OR MEDITATE
I always tried to journal daily but to be honest, I fell off the wagon a little because I wasn’t quite there mentally, I think this is as a result of me being stressed about my grad school journey. I will say this, even if you don’t meditate or journal daily, just make it something that is a regular habit or routine. If that means journaling or meditating twice a week that’s okay. The goal is to learn to be still, to find quiet time for yourself so that can you center yourself and listen to your voice. This is a way you can gain clarity in your life.
DEEPEN OR DEVELOP A NEW SPIRITUALITY OR FAITH
I come from a faith-based background so for me, these days I am trying to reconnect and deepen my faith by spending more time in the word and taking the time to learn more. It is good to believe in something. So if you’ve lost your way or you’ve been wanting to explore something new then go right ahead. Let me tell you, it sure feels good to know and feel connected to a higher power.
TAKE YOURSELF SERIOUSLY
Many of us tend to lack confidence when it comes to believing in our own abilities. I know first hand because that’s the case with me. It is so easy to feel like you aren’t good enough. When you think about it your skills, abilities and even your perspective are what makes you, you. So whether you’re a student, in the working world, or pursuing your passion, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF enough to be proud of who you are!
COMMIT TO YOURSELF
Let me tell you, I can commit to all sorts of things to the point that I’ve made commitments to things that weren’t even benefiting me so why is it hard to commit to ourselves?! Committing to yourself could be simple as taking a bath every night, saving money, pursuing a passion, reading a book, or even starting something new. Be sure to stick to your boundaries and stand in your truth. Do not, I repeat, do not allow anyone to let you feel bad for sticking to your boundaries. If you don’t set and stick to your boundaries it’ll leave room for people to think they can take advantage of you and they will continue to disrespect you. Take it from me, I’ve been learning about boundaries and I no longer apologize for being who I am. All it takes is for you to be consistent.
CELEBRATE YOURSELF MORE
You deserve all the goodness out of life. As you work on committing to yourself, sticking to your boundaries, and taking yourself seriously, remember that consistency is key. Nobody’s perfect but remember to celebrate where you are in your life and remember your dreams are worth it. We are all going through challenging times but it’s important to change your mindset. Inhale more positivity and exhale negativity.